I have long felt defined--at least partially--by my hair. There; I've admitted it. It's not so much a vanity, I think, as it is that I'm subtly conscious of it all the time. Not in a wow-my-hair-is-awesome way, but in an it's-always-there way. (I am feeling increasingly sheepish as I write this because I realize that I am sounding increasingly ridiculous, but I think ridiculous is okay sometimes, so I'm giving myself permission to continue.)
Here is how my self-view changes depending on what my hair is doing:
- Curly hair: I'm "fun and disorganized" Lindsay (the "disorganized" factor increases as the frizziness escalates. If I weren't lazy, I would make a line graph to awe you with my mathematical prowess).
- Straight hair: I'm "sleek and put together" Lindsay. It's weird, but I really do dress better and I'm more outgoing when my hair is straight.
- Ponytail: I'm "sloppy and homebound" Lindsay--I realized recently that I am subconsciously more likely to opt to stay home if my hair is pulled back.
Once upon a time, I used to have my hair straight an average of four out of seven days every week, but now I'm split pretty much fifty/fifty between curly and ponytail. Partially because marriage really did make me low-maintenance--sorry, Jay--but it is kinda his fault because he honestly likes me best with curly hair and no makeup (what a keeper!). So I guess I'll just claim that it's not laziness, but love, that motivates my thrown-together appearance every day...
Since I've been married, though, I've learned to like myself better with curly hair; I think it's a mark of maturity that I'm increasingly happy with the "natural" me. So, just in case you've ever wondered, here's the good and the bad of living with curls.
- I'm not going to lie: it's a 5-minutes-or-less hairdo: run a brush through it straight out of the shower, put in a little gel, and let it air dry. A major perk for total low-maintenance girls like me.
- Most days, I have pretty good second-day (or even third-day) hair--just spray in a little water, smooth, scrunch, and I'm good to go.
- It's a novelty--I get comments on it all the time and am often referred to as "the blonde girl with curly hair." Also, people recognize me from behind from far away. (Not sure that those are really pros, but oh well)
- Makes for fun up-dos
- Jay likes it
- I don't often invest the time (1-2 hours), but when I want to, I can wear it straight. It can be fun to have options
- Humidity and some rain only make it curlier
- Humidity and rain make it curlier
- I can't run my fingers through it
- I can't brush it when I want
- Clothes shopping is a nightmare--after trying on about three shirts, I have a halo of frizz. Doesn't matter if I'm wearing my hair down or in a ponytail--the frizz is unavoidable.
- Going swimming/to the lake/to a waterpark is also a nightmare: as my hair dries, it looks like I've been electrocuted. Pulling it back doesn't help because--you guessed it--halo of frizz! Halo of frizz!
- I will be dependent on gel for the rest of my life